I’m going to really try to keep this one brief and to the point. What I’m about to say is about as non-transgender PC as you can get. I had always thought I was a cross dresser since the first time I heard the now frowned upon term ‘transvestite’ at about age 12. However, it took until age 52 before I presented in public as female for the first time. Within the first hour of that experience I began to have doubts. I commented to one person that I was not so sure I was ‘just’ a cross dresser. This received a mild and kindly rebuke because my wording suggested those who cross dressed were on a lower level and transsexuals were on a higher level. Actually that is exactly what I thought in a benign sense. However, the fact is we are just different. Our priorities are not the same and our issues are not the same.
Within seven month of that first time I made a decision to cross dress full time. I felt that if this were true HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) would not make a difference in the core reality of who I was or what I was. I did feel comfortable presenting as female and 6 months later I started HRT. The change was almost over whelming. As my doctor put it; “your body will begin to match what your mind always knew.” He was right.
Just before I contacted him I had fears that he would not think I was really TS and he’d refuse to prescribe the medication. In my case I had nothing to worry about, but if he did turn me down as he had some who he felt were not TS’s I’d still not have to worry if I just wanted to get hormones. It is way too easy. Worse yet I soon learned many people are able to start HRT without any counseling or medical tests let alone having actually presented as female in public. I had a Psychiatrist, a counselor, a GP doctor, and a specialist especially for HRT. I could not imagine anyone deciding to start HRT without my list of healthcare professionals. I learned that I was actually the exception and NOT the rule!
Transitioning from one gender to another has become way too easy. After I started HRT I made a statement to everyone who asked about what it was like. I’d say, “Lord help anyone who begins HRT that is not really a TS!” If you are not a TS you’ll just open the door to a number of emotional issues none the least of which is suicide. It will NOT make you happier, but if you are TS it will make you more yourself. That is ONLY if you are TS.
I have a suspicion that many people who are transitioning are not actually TS, but are extending their cross dressing to a different level. I think others just have unrelated issues and transition is just a form of self-medicating. I am not a doctor or a shrink or a counselor. This is an opinion from someone who is TS. I really do not think that necessarily means it is wrong to make body modifications even in the extreams. I just believe some who do are unsure of who they really are and discover they are not TS when it is too late. When that happens they end up creating the reality they suspected. They are now in reality trapped in a body with the wrong gender.